Her actions were hurtful, but now it’s up to you whether you want to mend things or keep your distance. If she’s often been inconsiderate, protecting your well-being might mean stepping back. But if she’s someone you want in your life, it might be worth having an honest conversation. Rebuilding trust takes time, but starting with an open mind can help. You can explain that you spoke in the heat of the moment, but your pain was real. If she’s willing to meet halfway, there might be hope.
Have a private conversation with your mom. Your mom may be blaming you out of frustration and a desire to smooth things over. Instead of reacting defensively, calmly explain why you were hurt. Let her know your emotions came from real pain, not pettiness. She might understand your side better and realize it wasn’t just about a wedding speech gone wrong. Ask what she expects from you moving forward, and set clear boundaries about what blame you will or won’t accept.
Surround yourself with supportive people. During tough times, lean on friends, other family, or even a therapist who truly care about you. Having a support system reminds you that your worth isn’t tied to this situation. It might also help to distance yourself from family members who make you feel guilty, at least until emotions calm down. Focus on activities that bring you peace and joy instead of dwelling on the drama. The more you focus on your happiness, the less power this will have over you.
Use this experience to set boundaries for the future. Betrayal from your sister and ex is painful but can teach you the importance of boundaries. If your sister comes back, don’t just forget what happened. Set clear expectations about respect and honesty. The same applies to family and friends—this experience can help you prioritize relationships built on trust and mutual respect.